HOW LONG WILL IT TAKE US TO FORM A NEW HABIT OR GET RID OF AN OLD ONE?

 Have you ever thought to yourself before going to sleep, tomorrow is the day i'll change, tomorrow is the day i'll get up early in the morning have a healthy breakfast, go for a morning jog, breathe fresh air, tomorrow is the day i want to change to who i really want to be the best version of myself.

While change doesn't come easy, you have to incorporate certain habits in your life that'll eventually lead to you becoming the best version of yourself. You'll also have to eliminate certain habits that are hindering your path well.

How long will it take you to form a new habit or get rid of an old one? Most people will tell you it takes exactly 21 days for a person to form a habit or get rid of an old one.

I remember once in high school, one of my teachers told me it takes exactly 21 days for me to form a new habit and I thought this is my chance to become a bed maker. I thought that for the next 21 days instead of getting up every day and yelling mom please don't forget to make my bed today. I thought I'd do it myself day by day early in the morning at 6 a.m even on days I was running late. I got up every morning and I made my bed and I hated every second of it.

And by day 22 i opened my eyes and the first thing i did was say “mom please don't forget to make my bed today” 

I quit.

And of course that was expected and i thought okay maybe i'm just gonna be a little bit worse at life than bed makers, whatever, i do not exaggerate if i say that this 21 day theory is the most famous myth.

In the world of self-development let's dive a little into our theory to understand where the number 21 came from and the reasons for its spread in self-development books and courses dr maxwell maltz was a plastic surgeon.

In the 1950s when he began noticing a strange pattern among his patients for example in a nose job he saw that the patient took exactly 21 days to get used to start seeing his or her new nose. He also noticed that if a patient had an armor leg amputated the patient would acknowledge the feeling of their new limb for exactly 21 days before starting to get used to their new condition.

Dr maltz published his theory in a book that went very famous in that era and sold over 30 million copies and here the conflict started brewing and people and it made sense why people were starting to believe his theory why number one the number 21 is considered a source a short period of time and that's also considered a source of temptation which means something you can do number two the number 21 is also long enough to be believable a difficult challenge.

But not impossible, i mean who wouldn't love to change their whole life within just 21 days, wouldn't you love to start waking up, early in the morning every day, wouldn't you love to start cooking healthy recipes, wouldn't you love to start drinking weird smoothies and all within less than one month we'd go for it in a heartbeat.

So is it true can we really change our lives within 21 days? i know that sounds very exciting but there are actually a few factors you'd have to consider to be able to estimate the time it'll take you to form a new habit or get rid of an old toxic one.

Number one is the complexity of your goal. If I decide to start eating fruit daily which is considered a simple habit I'd probably take less time than if I want to acquire a complex athletic skill like a tennis serve.

Number two behavior consistency affects the speed of acquisition, me repeating a certain behavior for three minutes a day is different than my friend repeating the same behavior for 30 minutes a day.

So we want to clear things up. How long will it take us to form a new habit or get rid of an old one? and is there a reliable study that we can depend on, the answer is yes. There is a famous study by the psychologist philippa lally titled “how are habits formed the study followed 96 people over a period of 12 weeks”

Each person chose a new 12-week habit to work on such as drinking 3 cups of water before lunch or running for 15 minutes after dinner. After 12 weeks the data was analyzed to determine the time needed to move from the old habit to start subconsciously carrying out the new one and after 12 weeks we found that it took approximately two to eight months in order for the task to become a habit and 66 days to be exact the difference in time it took to form a habit was largely due to the task itself the person and their circumstances as some were able to form the habit within 18 days while others took 254 days.

So according to psychologist lali, if you want to know the time required to form a new habit or get rid of an old one the truth is that you may need two to eight months and not just 21 days guys.

Whether it's two months three months a year two years it doesn't actually matter how long it takes as much as it matters that you have to begin with today and once you begin make sure to maintain your new habit make it part of your schedule set reminders create a supportive environment and most importantly you don't have to be perfect making a mistake once or twice has no lasting effects on your behavior actually.

That'll give you time not to rush yourself into things you have to give yourself time and not just rush yourself into becoming a better virgin if i want to become a better person i'll have to commit to the system and embrace the process that way.

I'll commit to making tiny improvements rather than rushing myself too hard into things. Change is not always easy and it's not always simple but with enough dedication any habit can be reshaped.

So if you really want it becoming the best version of yourself, get up today and start working on it. I promise you'll get there. Thank you.

LEARNING TO SPEAK MORE CLEARLY THROUGH DAILY PRACTICE

 Today we are gonna talk about learning to speak more clearly through daily practice. So every time I get a message relating to how someone can improve their voice, it's often followed by the assumption that they can get this quickly. Like there's a quick fix of how to get this done. Unfortunately, with the voice, it doesn't really work like that.

Your voice is created by your body, using air manipulated accordingly through intentions and impulses created by the mind. Your body is a physiological machine. It is an instrument madeof muscle, bone, fascia, and many other bits and bobs thrown in. If you want to train this instrument to perform better, then you are no different to an athlete who also has to train their bodies.

Only. We are training our bodies in different ways. And of course, we all know that the smarter an athlete works and the more consistent they are with their work, the better they become. This means that if you want to create permanent and positive results, which will ensure your instrument can function to the best of its ability, then you need to think and train like an athlete. Okay?

Not by using the same muscles the same way as an athlete, but you need to practice regularly and dare I say it daily. Do you want to get better? Practice daily. Want to stop mumbling? Practice daily. Improve your confidence.

Practice daily articulate better, resonate, more, become more present practice daily. But most importantly, and according to the way this video is titled, if you want to be clearer and better understood, then you need to practice speaking clearer daily.

So it's all very well taking the exercises from my channel and also from my online courses, which are designed to make your instrument the best it can be. But if you're not practicing using the instrument, it's just going to start getting a bit rusty and a bit dusty. So even if it's a good instrument and it's in good shape, It still needs to be played.

And what I mean by that is to become more mindful and more purposeful with how you speak daily. So in order for you to learn and to understand and start practicing speaking more clearly daily, I'm going to set you a task now, which you can start once this article is complete. I want you you to go and find someone whose voice you like.

Now this could be a TV personality, a news reader, an actor, a politician, anyone that you know, whose voice you can find in many places, be it on films, radio, cassette recordings, or anywhere you can find it on the internet is a great source of material. Of course find someone whose voice you would like to sound a bit like. And what I want you to do is find 30 to 60 seconds, max recording, and put it on your phone or your laptop of this person speaking.

And what you're going to do is every day you're going to play that recording back, listen to it, stop it every few seconds and repeat what that person is saying exactly as you think they sound when they say it. Now, I think it's important that you find someone who you believe to be a good speaker. Someone you find to be articulate and clear in their voice, not just someone, you like their voice. If it's a singer, for example, if it's a mumble rapper, that's not gonna get you anywhere with your articulation, clearer speech.

So what you wanna do is find someone who maybe uses their voice as a speaker for a living, possibly an actor, or like I said before a politician, and try to notice what it is that makes their voice stand out. What is it that makes it clear? And I don't you to worry too much about this. I just want you to do it every day now, until you can impersonate the recording you have of this person, until you can actually do it the way they do it.

I don't want you to think too much about what it is they're doing. I just want you to mimic the sounds they make. And there's a reason for this. When we're children, everything we learn is through copying it's through mimicking. This is how we learn. And what happens is as we get older, we form habits, which aren't necessarily so good for our speech or good for our lives, even.

So what we need to do is to retrain our bodies, to start thinking and acting and copying those who we now wish to sound like, or we now wish to become. So specifically with our voices, find someone who you want to sound like or believe that has a quality in their voice that you would like to have in yours.

And we are gonna start mimicking that. That's how we're gonna learn. So if there's a lot of words in this text, you can stop it every few seconds and repeat after them. Or if it's just a short piece of text, maybe it's easy for you to learn it and repeat it back. And once you get to the point where remember everything, that's great, keep doing it.

Keep listening to the recording every day until you feel you can do a very good impersonation. Now, the best way for you to find out whether you are progressing and getting better with this is to record your own voice as well. And what you should do is if you do this listening exercise daily and speak along with it, then at the end of every week, you can record your voice and play that back against the other one and listen to yourself against how you sounded the week before.

So you can do this for two weeks, a month, six months a year, If you like, just do it until you are comfortable, that something in your voice has changed. I don't want you to do this without using a warmup, or some kind of physical exercises that get your body and your voice ready to speak. Now you can do this one of three ways. I have tons of article on this channel. And this one in particular is a great warmup. I'd like you to look at that every day before you do this exercise. So this way your body's in a really ready state to get started.

And if you feel that after doing these exercise, for say two weeks or a month, and doing these warmup exercises and the one I've set you, then I think you would be ready to check out the online course, do these exercises daily, go through all my videos, find everything you can practice daily, make something up, maybe just do one video a day, failing that if you really don't wanna do these exercises and you don't wanna practice daily, you're not gonna get as far as you want, as quick as you'd like.

Of course, if you want to make permanent changes in your voice and permanent changes, positive results from your instrument, then you need to do a very specific set of exercises, which is why I put together my eight week online course, because it took me 25 years to amass all that information and put it together in a structured way that I could teach others to literally transform their bodies from wherever they are into the ultimate speaking machine.

But that aside you have your task, whether you choose to take it or not, it's up to you. I hope you do. This is improve your voice. And until the next time practice using your voice.

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HOW TO SPEAK FAST AND SMARTS?

 Have you ever had a time when you're trying to explain something and you're looking for that one word and for some reason it just doesn't come to your mind and you just get stuck on that word because you know there's a perfect word for this thing that you're trying to express but for some reason it just won't come out

So that is when you're in a low verbal fluency state some people are constantly in that state and some people are rarely ever in that states or don't even know how that even feels like how to speak fast and smarts

All about verbal fluency my name is Tina leader 

So before we get into it I wanted to go over what two verbal fluency is and why should we even care, now verbal fluency is how quickly you can access certain words or sentences when you think and you express when you talk it out loud 

So that is the verbal parts in the fluency part is how fast you can access it to go ahead and express it when we think about great communicators it really goes down to three different aspects 

Number one the content, number two accessing that's content within your own mind and then number three how the person expresses that content 

So you have to have the content you have to be able to access it with your brain and then you have to be able to thirdly express that content 

So now we're talking about speaking fast and speaking intelligently, you really have to think about "okay how fast can I retrieve the information I want to retrieve and how can I access all of that and express it at the same time" because it's not just about how you say things and your tonality, it's also how quickly can you access the information that you need to access, you're not just sitting there going uh well and all of that can be partially because you're insecure maybe you're not confident enough maybe you're not sure of what the situation is or maybe you have lack verbal fluency 

So interestingly enough there's a test out there for verbal fluency and it's called the controlled oral word association test. So I just thought to myself why not do a verbal fluency test with you and then you can always come back to this blog and see if you've improved or maybe hopefully you didn't go backwards

But let's just see how much we improve and then how we can improve our verbal fluency going forward so number one go ahead and get your phone so you can record your own voice number two put on the screen 60 seconds for you to come up with words in each category so we're gonna do this three separate times of 60 seconds each and during that 60 seconds I want to make sure that you come up with as many words as you possibly can and you have to make sure you say it out loud don't just say it in your head

Hence the reason that's who you are going to record from your phone record the 60 seconds when the screen comes and you're going to record first as many words as possible that begins with the letter F and then second as many words as possible that begins with the letter A and then third as many words as possible that begins with the letter s

So let's go with F first three two one

now go ahead and stop that recording and

we're going to do another recording and

this time it's on the letter A three two

one

all right now go ahead and stop that

recording right here and now we're going

to start with the letter S here we go

three two one

Congratulations you have done the verbal fluency test 

So here is what I want you to do go ahead and go back to your recording and number down or tally down, how many words that you have used within that 60 seconds now if it's a repeat word that doesn't count right if it's a repeat word please don't count it and if it's a word that's let's say Apple and apples that counts as one word so you can't cheat and go Apple Apple's boat boats that doesn't count so that counts as one word so telling it that way in each section the F the a and the s go ahead and add it together divided by three and we have your average now

Technically speaking there is no scientifically proven average however if you are below eighteen eighteen to twenty you should go see a doctor there might be something wrong with either your cognition or you might have brain fog or something that is stopping you from having normal verbal fluency 

So if you are above at least eighteen then we can measure from here and this is going to be a starting point you can always come back to this blog and retest 

So you might be thinking to yourself well. Okay great now I know where I'm at Tina and there is no generally accepted here's the average here's above-average here's excellent 

So then where do I go from here so I always believe in progression not perfection we want to progress to where we are at right now as a base and then go up from here

So how do you increase your verbal fluency now you can do the same exact test that you've done here the F the a the S the problem is you might start to remember some words and you might repeat it just game the system so instead of doing the same exact test as a form of exercise I want to challenge you to do different topics 

So let's say tomorrow morning you want to do a topic on fast foods come up with as many words as you possibly can that has to do with fast-food fries hamburger hotdog ketchup mustard right and just keep going for again 60 seconds then the next day do another topic it could be on a topic of your favorite TV show like suits 

So every single day if you pick a different topic you can't allow yourself your brain to specifically memorize certain words instead you're training your brain to retrieve retrieve that's content in order for you to express it out loud and then again we are increasing our verbal fluency 

Comment below and let me know what your average was again there is no scientifically proven standard to this verbal fluency test of course this is not conducted by a scientist so please take this with a grain of salt but that being said I really like to know what your score was and where you plan to go from here 

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THINK FAST AND TALK SMART

 People hate me.

People fear me.

You see, I'm a communication professor. And these people who fear me and hate me are some of the brightest, most creative, most entrepreneurial people I know. I wield a tool. And that tool I wield is what makes them fear and despise me.

As a professor, I have the ability to do what's called "cold calling." That's where I look at a student and say, "What do you think? What do you feel about what we just discussed? How does this impact you?" And this causes panic, not just for my students but for everybody: that moment where we are called upon to speak articulately. Can we do it?

Now, rest assured, I never cold call on my students. I think it's rude, and I know it's hard. But people fear it. Eighty-five percent of people say they fear speaking in public. And quite frankly, I think the other 15% are lying. I think we could find a situation that makes them nervous too.

So today, my goal is to share with you some tips and techniques that you can use to help you be more comfortable and confident when you're speaking, in other words, to be able to think fast and talk smart.

To do this, we're going to look at four different steps. First, we're going to talk about the approach we take. Then, we'll speak about the audience we talk to, the context in which we find ourselves and finally, the structures we use to help our messages get across.

So, let's start by talking about approach.

You know, I was reminded about the importance of approach many, many years ago, when my wife and I first moved in with each other. You see, we fought a lot over little things, things mostly that happened in our bathrooms.

We called these our bathroom brawls: "Is the toilet seat up?" "Is the toilet seat down?" By far, the biggest fight my wife and I ever had was over toothpaste. You see, my wife's a roller, and I'm a squeezer. And all of you out there who are rollers, I appreciate the fine artwork you create out of your toothpaste. But you know that the most awful thing that can happen to you is to have a squeezer come by and ruin all that effort you've put in. But to me, getting toothpaste out of a tube is an act of aggression. I feel powerful in the morning and in the evening. And we would fight incessantly over little things like this.

And finally, my wife, who is much smarter than I, said, "Timeout. What are we doing here? We've just been married. We love each other, yet we're fighting all the time. We need to look at this differently." And as soon as we started looking at our bathroom brawls as opportunities - opportunities to learn about each other, to make concessions, to collaborate - things changed. And I'm happy to say, after 15 years of marriage, we no longer fight over toothpaste.

This same approach is true in communication. Most of us, when we are in situations where we need to communicate, we see them as threatening. We see them as opportunities for failure. And I'd like to suggest that we need to change that.

We need to approach communication in an open way, see it as an opportunity to share our ideas, our beliefs, our innovations. And when we take a perspective of openness, all of a sudden, something that we dread becomes something that we embrace.

So, the first step to effective communication is to approach it in an open way. But that's not enough. We need to think about the audience that we're speaking to. And to me, the way to approach it is the opposite the way most people do. Most of us think about, "Here's what I want to say" or, "Here's what I need to say." I would suggest that's exactly wrong. You need to think about, "What does my audience need to hear?"

And it sounds just like verbal jiu jitsu, where I'm moving words around, but in fact, it's a fundamental difference. If I ask myself, "What does my audience need," it puts me in service of my audience. It's about their needs. And in order to understand those needs, I have to do some reconnaissance. I have to ask myself who they are.

The three things I think we need to ask about our audience are, "What is their knowledge?" "What is it that they know?" and if they don't know enough, "What can we do to scaffold that information so that they have the tools they need?"

In addition to knowledge, we need to be thinking about their expectations. And by expectations, I mean, What is it that they expect of me? Most audiences have heard the types of presentations you're giving: maybe it's a pitch, maybe it's some kind of advertisement or marketing, maybe it's a TED talk. Your audience has heard those kinds of presentations before, so what do they expect of you? And then you can choose to conform to those expectations or not.

You know, I have two young kids, and I learned that sometimes violating their expectations actually is the most effective thing I can do for the communication we need.

My boys sometimes make me upset. And when they make me upset, I used to raise my voice to no avail. Nothing happened. I was ignored. And that's tough for a communication guy.

So, what I started to do - when I'm really upset with my boys, I lower my voice. And they stop dead in their tracks. Violating expectations sometimes can actually help you as a communicator.

The final thing we need to think about is, "What are their attitudes?" The way you approach your communication is influenced by what your audience thinks about what you're talking on: Are they in favor of it? Are they against it? Or they're hesitant? Agnostic? Those are the things you need to be asking yourself when you communicate. So, we need to appreciate our audience.

When my older child was in kindergarten, I volunteered. I came into his classroom, the teacher had to leave to take a call or something, and I was in charge of an art project. Oh, was that a mistake. The kids were running around. I was saying, "Stop this, Johnny." "Sally, stop doing that." Nobody listened.

The Yoda-like teacher returned, saw the chaos that had ensued in her brief absence and simply looked at the children and started rewarding the positive behavior. "Janet," she said, "what a lovely way you've cleaned up your crayons." "Samuel, thank you so much for walking with the scissors." The students stopped in their tracks, changed their behavior.

I learned then that you need to understand your audience and what they need. And to this day, I try to apply those principles. I also learned that I could never teach elementary school students. If guilt and shame doesn't work, I can't teach them.

So, knowing your audience really matters. But beyond knowing your audience, you have to appreciate the context in which you speak. Whenever you speak, you are in a particular context. And to me, context comes in a bunch of different varieties.

The first thing about context we need to think about is the time. What time of day are you communicating? If you're talking early in the morning, you might have to have a little more energy to keep people moving. Same thing after lunch when people are having that food coma experience.

I taught high school many, many years ago. And I don't think my principal liked me very much because she gave me freshmen right before lunch and right after lunch. And if you know anything about 14- and 15-year-old kids, they need lots of food and lots of social experience.

So, by the time my first class of freshmen came to me after four hours of class, they were dead tired. They could barely move, let alone think. Right after lunch, when my second batch joined me, they were amped-up on their food, their caffeine, their friends. It was a frenzy in my classroom.

And I had to teach them the same thing. How did I do it?  I changed the way we approached the class. The class before lunch was highly collaborative, people were moving around, lots of activities; after lunch, a little more mellow.

You must address the context, the timing so your message can be effective. Context also involves emotion. Most of us when we communicate, we think about information: What's in my head, in my heart I need to communicate to you? But we also communicate a feeling. Maybe we're trying to get people excited and motivate them. Maybe we're trying to scare them, create that burning platform that motivates them to change.

Sometimes, we're just trying to instill confidence: You should believe in what I'm saying. But we need to think about the emotion as well as the information. The final bit of context has to do with where you're physically speaking.

Location matters.

Just the other day, I read in the newspaper that the Girl Scout in the state of California this year who sold the most cookies during the Girl Scout's annual cookie drive set up shop in front of a medical marijuana dispensary. She sold more cookies than anybody.

Location matters.

Think about the way the room is set up. Think about the environment: Is it live? Is it virtual? Those change the way that you communicate. We need to think about location. So, our approach is important. Our audience is important.

The context in which we find ourselves is important and so too is the way we structure our messages. It is much easier for humans to understand information when it is structured. In fact, we remember information up to 40% better when it's structured.

What do I mean by this? Some of you listening are too young to remember, but those of us of my age, when we wanted to call somebody on the phone, we actually had to remember a phone number.

My kids today, they look at a picture, push a button, and the other person starts talking on the phone. We had it much harder. We had to remember 10 digits. Ten digits are hard to remember, so what did we do?

We put them in a structure: three-three-and four. That's how we remembered. That's what I mean by a structure. The information is put in a way that it makes it easy not only for you as a speaker but also for the audience to remember.

Now, I have lots of favorite structures.

The first structure is a chronological structure: past-present-future.

Here's how things used to be.

Here's how they are today.

Here's where they're going in the future.

A chronological structure can really help you navigate your audience from one place to the next. Quite frankly, structure sets expectations. You can't be lost if you have a map. Your structure provides a map, and the chronological structure is incredibly helpful for that. The next structure happens to be the problem-solution-benefit structure. This is one of the most persuasive structures out there. You start by explaining what the issue is, you talk about how to solve it and then the benefits to the people.

Finally, my favorite structure, the one that I use the most - I call this "the MacGyver of all structures"; this can get you through any situation - is the what, so-what, now-what structure.

You start by telling people what the issue is. You tell them why it's important in that so-what step. And then you tell them what's next, what's coming.

It's like a Swiss Army knife. You can use it in situations if you're teaching. You can use it if you are trying to motivate people. And you can use it even if you're introducing somebody. Change the "what" to a "who," and you've got your introduction. Structure helps keep your audience together and in line.

When I was an undergraduate, I was a tour guide. It was the highest-paying job on campus. And boy, did I need money. I trained for 12 weeks to be a tour guide. I learned lots of interesting - some would say useless - facts about my university, things they drilled into our heads besides how to walk backwards, which to this day I still can do in a straight line.

The most important thing they taught us - they said, "Above all else, to be a great tour guide at this institution is to never lose your audience. You are a bad tour guide if your tour group gets lost." The same is true when you're speaking. Structure keeps people together. We need structure. So, we see here that these tools, the tools that help us get our audience engaged and involved and help us convey our message are the same tools that helped my students learn to love speaking and learn to do it well.

It's about the approach you take, the audience, the context, and the structure. Now, I'm always looking for examples of this to help people understand. And the other day, I was eating breakfast, and I looked across the table at my soy milk, and I said, "You know what? This is a great example." Think about it: Silk soy milk. Silk soy milk is targeted to a very specific audience: people who are interested in eating healthy or people who are lactose intolerant.

The name is a combination of the words "soy" and "milk" - "Silk." It speaks to the audience's desire to have something rich, something expensive, something yummy. It's at a time, in a context, in an environment. If you notice where you buy Silk soy milk, it's next to other milk. That's not where it was originally. It used to be in the health food aisle. Now it's next to milk. They marketed it and boxed it the way milk is.

The structure of the name is very compelling. Let's face it, they could have called it "Moy," and nobody would've bought it, right? So, if you get the message right and you communicate it effectively, you can make a big difference. So, I want for you what I wish for all of my students: bold communication that's confident and compelling. And I want for your message to echo long after you leave the room. And these are skills that are at your disposal. It just takes practice and a little bit of a positive approach.

Thank you.

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15 SMALL BUSINESS IDEAS FOR TEENAGERS

 hey guys! if you're an ambitious teenager who wants to start a small business to earn a little extra cash then carry on reading this article!! <33

1. clay rings

clay rings are so aesthetic and cute and are also relatively easy to make! you can make them and sell them on etsy! <3

2. custom tote bags

if you're someone who has good art skills, then painting and customising plain tote bags could be the small business for you!!

3. crochet diys

crochet diys are trensing right now and you can make almost everything from crochet clothes to crochet animals! plus it's a good hobby to take on

4. tie-dye nike socks

tie-dye nike socks are another thing that have been trending recently but they are so pretty and aesthetic!

5. phone cases

this business idea is probably on the more expensive side especially if they're being homemade but if you really wanna go for it then why not!

6. lipgloss

now if you're someone who's into the cosmetic side of things then lipgloss is the one for you

7. stickers

who doesn't love a pretty sticker? stickers are also easy to make (you can search up tutorials on youtube).

8. candles

if you're on the older side and can handle dealing with things like hot wax then this is the one for you!

9. clay trays

clay trays are so pretty and cute but also very useful! you can use them to store all your jewellery like rings and necklaces so they never get lose

10. body butters

whipped body butters are really selling off right now so get into it while you still can!

11. bath bombs

everyone loves a cool bath bomb, try experimenting with different colours and scents!

12. jewellery

making jewellery is not always the easiest thing but if you like a challenge then get started!!

13. birthday cards

easy to make and easy to sell. birthday cards never go out of date!

14. art prints

whwther you make digital art or physical art, why not turn them into prints and make a little extra cash?

15. embroidery clothes

embroidery clothes, especially sweatshirts are so cute! if you have a sewing machine already then you can easily get started!!

now that you have an idea you're probably wondering where to sell your item...

Etsy

i recommend starting your smal business on etsy especially if you're selling thing that are homemade/handmade. etsy is one of the biggest online marketplaces for homemade items!

that's the end of the article! i hove you enjoyed it and have picked up an idea for your new small business, make sure to comment for more! :))

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12 LIFE LESSONS THAT PEOPLE OFTEN LEARN TOO LATE

 There are times when we get caught up in a pattern of repeating and constantly making the same mistakes. for that reason, it is very important that we know the lessons of life so that we can avoid repeating the mistakes that are just that

when faced with a new challenge or situation the fact is that life lessons are one of the most fundamental aspects of a human being but unfortunately we often forget about them and do not even know them

In this article, we will discuss 12 life lessons that you can hold as the main foundation in living your daily life so that you have a clearer understanding of how the world works

1. Attitude is everything

the attitude you have reflects how you look at life and how you live it If you have a negative attitude then you will assume that your life is always filled with sadness of failure and boredom But if you have a positive attitude then you will assume that your life is always filled with opportunities

happiness and success need to be remembered, that whether your life is happy or not is determined by the attitude you have, so Choose your attitude wisely

2. All the good things in life cannot be obtained easily

Getting a job may be easy but finding a career with a big salary is certainly not easy, then it is easy to fall in love and date the person you like but Building a happy relationship definitely requires hard effort and a long time

you should know And realize that there are no shortcuts to get all the good things in life. Of course, there are times when luck helps you to achieve what you want but Remember that people who depend only on luck always end up feeling disappointed

If you just sit still and hope that good things happen to you then you won't be able to change your situation for the better

3. Actions speak louder than words

I am 100% sure that if you must have heard the proverb before, the concept of the expression is actually very simple and easy to understand but there are still many people who do not apply it for example, someone may say that he loves you or cares about you but, he never really does something to show his affection or concern for you

many individuals in this world who utter sweet words without thinking about what they say do not care what words come out of a person's mouth if their actions do not reflect those words then the words they say have no meaning at all

anyway, if you want to be taken seriously and trusted by others then your actions must always be in accordance with what you say

4. The habit of procrastination will make your life difficult

Time is the most valuable asset and one of the easiest ways to waste it is to procrastinate when you procrastinate then you automatically kill your productivity as all your liabilities become unresolved

anyway If you want to have a more productive and efficient life start by getting rid of the habit of procrastination

5. Life does not give you everything you want

It's easy to get caught up in the thought that you're always going to get what you want in life but in reality it's not true know that you can't have everything you crave so, you have to be brave to make sacrifices and prioritize the things that matter most to you

Understanding the basic concepts of this one life lesson is very important because it can help make you aware that there are some things out there that you really can't achieve or are out of your reach by adopting such a mindset it will be much easier for you to make sacrifices to achieve the goals that are your top priority

6. Feeling Sad After Making a Decision

does not mean that the decision is wrong In life there will be times when we are forced by circumstances to make decisions that make us feel sad and even guilty but Even so it does not mean that the decision is wrong and the fact is that sometimes choosing a difficult choice is very necessary for your good

Every time you make a big decision such as moving to another country, ending a relationship or resigning from your job to start a new business then it is inevitable that there will be a deep sense of sadness in your heart but keep in mind that the sadness is only temporary and it should not prevent you from moving forward and making other choices in life

7. A good reputation is very expensive

The lost money can still be searched but the lost reputation may not be recovered. A person who has a good reputation is usually respected by his fellow man and people want to be like them because they have positive achievements as well as self-qualities. conversely an individual with a bad reputation is usually rarely respected by others and people tend to belittle or demean them

indeed building and protecting your reputation will require great effort but believe me that your hard work will definitely pay off well in the future

8. You will always Repeat the same mistakes until you have actually learned them

Life is a continuous learning process and every mistake you make will continue to repeat itself until you have actually learned it. Learning from mistakes is a difficult thing to do because our minds are often filled with resentment and annoyance when something makes you feel frustrated or disappointed

it shows that you have the wrong mindset or that there is a behavior in you that must be changed. So, all you have to do is take the wisdom from every incident that colors your life so that you don't fall into the same hole over and over again

9. There is always a solution to all problems

If those of you who are reading this article are now facing a big problem and don't know how to solve it then allow me to tell you that there is always a way out of every problem you have

The first step to finding a solution to a problem is to stop focusing your attention on what impact the problem has on you otherwise all you have to do is understand that the problems you are facing now are only a problem because they complicate your life At the moment and Remember that they will not forever trouble you

Once you adopt that mindset into your mind then Everything will appear brighter the things that you initially thought were a problem you will start to see as an inspiring challenge

10. Your worst enemy is yourself

self-awareness is the ability of an individual to be able to identify and understand himself as a whole Through the activity of reflection and introspection it allows you to make intelligent decisions about your life and helps you to understand what is really behind your behavior when you realize that your thoughts are your own it will be easier for you to control them and use them to help improve your personal growth

The only way you can really develop yourself is to take full control of your life by overcoming things like dishonesty, uncertainty, lack of confidence or other negative emotions that hinder your success

11. You never know how precious your health is until you get sick

often we do not realize how important our health is until we fall ill or are diagnosed with a severe illness unfortunately Most people always wait until a crisis or emergency occurs first before they decide to change their lifestyle and start prioritizing their health

keep in mind that if you don't take care of your health now then you will have a hard time in the future later if your health is really important to you then you should make it a priority

12. Nothing is eternal in this world

Life is filled with joys and sorrows and is tinged with joyful and sad moments nothing lasts in this world except change so remember not to continue to hold on to something that is beyond your control when life gives you trials and trials it may be difficult to remain optimistic and grateful for what you currently have

instead of thinking about negative things encourage yourself by constantly Remembering that nothing lasts forever in life bad situations will definitely pass and if for example they do not end on their own then all you need to do is change something

Happy moments also can't last forever so don't forget to cherish and enjoy every second that there is remember to always be grateful and enjoy your life every day because you will never know what will happen tomorrow

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THINGS YOU SHOULD ALWAYS KEEP TO YOURSELF

 some of these things are better not to say If you often tell something about yourself with others, you will probably feel like you have said things that shouldn't be told. Yes, you realize that there is too much information.

It doesn't hurt if you take care of some things for yourself and on many occasions, it's actually better. Sometimes keeping things about you private can help you achieve success

so Here are the things you should always keep to yourself:

The biggest destinations

If you have a big goal it is much better not to tell it with others. You are also more likely to achieve it in this way. This can be very difficult because you are very passionate about it but as you work hard to achieve your goals the opinions of others make you feel confused and those opinions are relative and different for each person this is interesting to note.

The study of achieving goals shows that when you tell a story you want to achieve and then you get praise it makes your brain experience a spike in endorphins. When you achieve your goal you become feel like you've done something and then you don't want to do anything this is as difficult as achieving your goal

Good deeds

Try not to talk much about the good things you have done to others because this can make you look arrogant and arrogant others can easily see your good without you having to explain it

If you're doing good just to brag about yourself does that count? Keep being kind and humble

Personal life

Your personal life is your own business. There are certain things you better keep to yourself such as: what you do on the mattress, your religious life and your bad habits telling your personal life will get you into the circle of judgment and criticism

Taking care of some aspects of your personal life can make you much classier and worthy of more respect

wealth

Some people may be richer than others and maybe you are not one of the lucky ones. If you are rich it is good but not wise If you show off your wealth too much and it is better to keep it for yourself this because money can ruin friendships and brotherhood if people around you find out you have excess wealth they will probably be jealous

If you have it Enjoy it but don't brag about it your wealth status has no relationship with anyone except with yourself

Life Beliefs

everyone needs to believe in something to be able to get through the day but this belief is different for everyone that's why your personal preferences and beliefs are things you should keep to yourself don't spend your time convincing others to think the way you think

family problems

All families have drama but this is not something you should tell with others because the more you tell about your family problems the more difficult the problem is because it is unethical to tell the problems that occur in your family can also demean you personally

of course if something is wrong it doesn't matter if you share it with people close to you as a way to get support but if you tell it too much It can backfire on you

Other people's secrets

Don't be a person who likes to talk about other people's private lives, don't gossip about them Remember to stay focused on your own affairs. if someone confides in you about their personal affairs then your job is to keep their secret If you share this information with others then your trust and relationship with your friend will be damaged. however there are exceptions if the situation is life-threatening or puts one's life at risk

Fear and weakness

Everyone has different weaknesses and fears but telling them is not something that will make you feel comfortable. In fact people love to see the weaknesses of others

so don't tell it you can learn your weaknesses and fears and if that doesn't work Look for a professional to help you

Hatred about the past

Constantly digging into the past will not help you. In fact past experiences can easily affect you so don't let it ruin your moment. The best thing you should do is to enjoy your life in the present moment in this way you can prevent your regrets and your hatred of the past from appearing. Forgive others so that you feel at peace

special talents

This is actually something you can share with others but if you have a special talent don't tell it constantly talk about it when the time is right because action is much harsher than words apply this principle wherever you can

but don't get me wrong this doesn't mean you have to alienate yourself from the world it's just that you have to have certain boundaries because no matter how good a person they remain unpredictable and no matter how big the circle of people around you we all remain alone

Thank you for reading, hopefully this article can make you wiser, if you agree click like and share it with your friends so that they also become wise like you

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